False Modesty

[q_sharon]

:itshere:: Perhaps you know people who extract compliments from others using reverse psychology. The conversation runs this way:


They say, "I am a hopeless player!"
So you say, "I think you are very good"
They say, "Not really. I make lots of mistakes.":holler:
So you say, "It sounds great to me."
They say, "You're just being nice."
So you say, "I mean it. You're fantastic."
They say, "Thanks ... but I"m really terrible.":coffeedrink:

Isn't this exasperating? We owe it to ourselves to end these ridiculous conversations as quickly as possible, and start talking about something sensible.

Exceptional people don't use false modesty tricks. They don't go fishing for compliments and they accept compliments gracefully when they are given. :coffeedrink:

Andrew Matthews . Being Happy

[patis]

the problem with this is rooted in what we're being taught socially: humility. we must learn to see difference between humility and false modesty. or at the other end of the spectrum, arrogance (not to be confused with pride. pride is that triumphant feeling when you have accomplished something great, something satisfactory. arrogance is something else).