How to mend a broken heart??..

[seductive_lady]

hey guys,

it's been 3 years since my boyfriend and I broke up, but i still feel that i can't move on ..coz the old feelings still remain...

do you have any idea on how to mend this broken heart??...

or have you experience the same feeling?..what have you done to forget about the past?


your comments and suggestions are highly appreciated.

thank you in advance:Cat Smiley 6105:

[patis]

right. so how does one forget a person who brought so many memories, so dear and yet so painful? those walks, with hand clasped with the other's, those kisses, so light and gentle as the morning dew, those hugs, warmer and tighter than your very own, those dreams both of you created, and founded on the fragile foundation of faith and love?

LOL im sorry for rubbing it in. im nasty that way LOL

i think you dont forget them. you shouldnt. that would make you feel remorse, and then sad, and then the cycle starts all over again, gaining momentum until you encounter your past self wielding such a force that is beyond your reckoning, out there to destroy you like the four horsemen of the apocalypse.

LOL, sorry to frighten you.

anyway, dont forget the past, these memories. they maybe painful, but remember: they are yours. if you're not happy about them, make new ones. better ones. somewhere along the way, you might find the person who'll help you with that task. in any case, just make them.

godspeed!

[gAn]

Hi seductive_lady!

It is hard to forget the past.

Keep yourself busy. Explore your untapped talents & gifts. I believe in the power of prayer...so pray. I'll pray for you.

Countless other people are less fortunate than you. Focus on the positive aspects of your life.
Smile and be happy!

:for_you:

[bittersweetenn]

right. so how does one forget a person who brought so many memories, so dear and yet so painful? those walks, with hand clasped with the other's, those kisses, so light and gentle as the morning dew, those hugs, warmer and tighter than your very own, those dreams both of you created, and founded on the fragile foundation of faith and love?

LOL im sorry for rubbing it in. im nasty that way LOL

i think you dont forget them. you shouldnt. that would make you feel remorse, and then sad, and then the cycle starts all over again, gaining momentum until you encounter your past self wielding such a force that is beyond your reckoning, out there to destroy you like the four horsemen of the apocalypse.

LOL, sorry to frighten you.

anyway, dont forget the past, these memories. they maybe painful, but remember: they are yours. if you're not happy about them, make new ones. better ones. somewhere along the way, you might find the person who'll help you with that task. in any case, just make them.

godspeed!

nice one... this is very true... :thanks:

[seductive_lady]

right. so how does one forget a person who brought so many memories, so dear and yet so painful? those walks, with hand clasped with the other's, those kisses, so light and gentle as the morning dew, those hugs, warmer and tighter than your very own, those dreams both of you created, and founded on the fragile foundation of faith and love?

LOL im sorry for rubbing it in. im nasty that way LOL

i think you dont forget them. you shouldnt. that would make you feel remorse, and then sad, and then the cycle starts all over again, gaining momentum until you encounter your past self wielding such a force that is beyond your reckoning, out there to destroy you like the four horsemen of the apocalypse.

LOL, sorry to frighten you.

anyway, dont forget the past, these memories. they maybe painful, but remember: they are yours. if you're not happy about them, make new ones. better ones. somewhere along the way, you might find the person who'll help you with that task. in any case, just make them.

godspeed!


thanks for sharing...what a wonderful advice:):cat-smi:

[seductive_lady]

Hi seductive_lady!

It is hard to forget the past.

Keep yourself busy. Explore your untapped talents & gifts. I believe in the power of prayer...so pray. I'll pray for you.

Countless other people are less fortunate than you. Focus on the positive aspects of your life.
Smile and be happy!

:for_you:

yes..it's really hard to forget someone who you used to love. thank you gan..for sharing your ideas..i really appreciate it..:thanks:

[bittersweetenn]

Anyways... seductive lady, gAn is right...

somehow, i think, just cherish those moment that you were happy with him,

be thankful for having him once in your life... and for losing him as well (!!??)

i mean, everything happens for a reason...
though you are broken hearted, at least you are able to experience the magic of loving and being loved...

you might probably not forget him or the feelings that you have for him... but,

there is a need for you to accept that you and him are not meant to be...

you just need TO ACCEPT ... and a NEED TO LET GO,

it's not that easy...IT TAKES FOREVER TO FORGET the person we once considered most important... most loved...:intears:


btw, just listen to your heart... but if you heart keeps hurting you.... let your mind handle it...

i hope this makes any sense...:cat-smi::burnout:

[racz_jay25]

hey guys,

it's been 3 years since my boyfriend and I broke up, but i still feel that i can't move on ..coz the old feelings still remain...

do you have any idea on how to mend this broken heart??...

or have you experience the same feeling?..what have you done to forget about the past?


your comments and suggestions are highly appreciated.

thank you in advance:Cat Smiley 6105:

Hey SL..
I experienced it myself but I guess in a different level.. My boyfriend got married last year and until now I still love him..

I love him more than half of my life and I know that he had the same feeling for me..I loved him before I know what love was.. Distance made us apart but the feelings for each other were still there..

December 15, 2005 (can't forget the date) when he asked me to marry him.. At the age of 21 (he's 22), I wasn't ready so I told him that "I will" after 5 years.. He said, he can wait.. November 2006 when I came here and he always sent messages saying how he loves, adores and misses me and I believed him..When I had my vacation last July, I didn't see him and a high school friend of us told me that he's getting married..I didn't believe at first but when I talked to him he said that it's true and he asked me to come.. just imagine that..

anyway, I didn't ask for his explanation.. I just wished him luck.. I didn't cry.. I didn't know why but I didn't.. I was happy for him.. really happy.. my heart knew that he won't be mine again but I was hoping that he'll change his mind..

I went back here before his wedding, he still sends messages. I don't know if it just guilt or what..

I am keeping myself busy for some things like flirting with some other guys out there..lol.. Seriously, I do really keep myself busy.. There are so many things that we can do to forget guys like him..lol..But you know what, the more I try to forget him, the more I dream of him.. The last time was last night..

I told myself that everything happens for a reason.. There's another plan for me.. I know that someday, i'll meet a guy who will give me an unending love.. I'll wait for that day..

[gAn]

Hi racz_jay25!

I admire your very positive attitude! Life goes on...

Seductive_lady, life is what you make it.

[ctivnan]

:cute3: SL, just a sharing: when I had a broken heart, I realized that in spite of all the work I was drowning myself in to forget him and my love, I needed to forgive... myself and the guy. When I did that, I felt liberated! :heart3:

[racz_jay25]

Hi racz_jay25!

I admire your very positive attitude! Life goes on...

Seductive_lady, life is what you make it.

Maybe because I also blamed myself for what happened between us.. I loved him but I wasn't ready to settle down when he asked me.. but if he really loves me the way I love him, he'll understand, right?

Letting him go also made me realize how I love him.. His happiness is important to me and I believe that mine will come later..:)

[ayumie]

a close friend of mine told me that 'only a loving heart mends a broken heart' ... and it is true.
that loving heart might be just around you but you do not realize that it is there ... open your heart to new possibilities ... yes you love him ( your ex ) then let him go . :hey:

[veron]

Am sure it's hard to forget but so easy to forgive... once we have taken that load off our chest, healing follows. And am also sure you have forgotten once there's someone else in his place! ::inlove2::

[jansroy14]

to move on doesn't mean to forget...and if you've forgotten doesn't mean you've already moved on...here's a quick thought about ur prob..."to move on is to look at something more important than the past..and have it!".......forgetting everything is IMPOSSIBLE.....but to leave it behind??i know u can!wink!

[ayumie]

to move on doesn't mean to forget...and if you've forgotten doesn't mean you've already moved on...here's a quick thought about ur prob..."to move on is to look at something more important than the past..and have it!".......forgetting everything is IMPOSSIBLE.....but to leave it behind??i know u can!wink!

right ! jansroy :BU:

go girl you can do it :smilie3:

[seductive_lady]

a close friend of mine told me that 'only a loving heart mends a broken heart' ... and it is true.
that loving heart might be just around you but you do not realize that it is there ... open your heart to new possibilities ... yes you love him ( your ex ) then let him go . :hey:

yeah you're right...there's a lot of possibilities around me but i keep holding on with my past..maybe that's why until now i haven't find my happiness and contentment...

[seductive_lady]

Am sure it's hard to forget but so easy to forgive... once we have taken that load off our chest, healing follows. And am also sure you have forgotten once there's someone else in his place! ::inlove2::


yes...it is really easy to forget...but in doing so you really need to forgive first. It is easier to forget when you have no grievances within your heart :D

thanks for giving an advice..it's really worth it

[bittersweetenn]

a close friend of mine told me that 'only a loving heart mends a broken heart' ... and it is true.
that loving heart might be just around you but you do not realize that it is there ... open your heart to new possibilities ... yes you love him ( your ex ) then let him go . :hey:

when someone who is more loving... more caring, we will learn to forget the pain... we will not even feel the pain of the broken heart... eventually, we will find out that... the broken heart has been mended???

:SINGING: not so sure....

[purpleybutterfly]

in the past, how i mend my broken heart is by finding someone else to turn my attention to. even if he is just a friend or someone i was attracted to. it actually helps and i agree with ayumie, normally a loving heart helps a broken heart. thats how i survive it as well. plus, i always think that am better off without the guy, im good at that convincing myself. i dont dwell on sorrows, i always find a way to make myself recover and be happy. i always thought, life is too short to cry over something that isnt worth crying over no matter what it was.

[trailblazerstravelntours]

hey guys,

it's been 3 years since my boyfriend and I broke up, but i still feel that i can't move on ..coz the old feelings still remain...

do you have any idea on how to mend this broken heart??...

or have you experience the same feeling?..what have you done to forget about the past?


your comments and suggestions are highly appreciated.

thank you in advance:Cat Smiley 6105:

ey, seductive_lady, purplebutterfly is right. your heart is broken until a new love comes along...
then there's the thrills and the longing that only new love brings
so grieve, girl, if you must
and then, fall in love again... :cupid:

:DANCER::DANCER::DANCER:

:heartbeat::heartbeat::heartbeat::heartbeat:

[luckycharm15]

"When we live with resentment toward another our hearts close down.
Letting go of our resentment frees us from placing blame on them
and allows us to look toward ourself for peace."

- Tigress Luv


A broken heart feels like part of you has died.
Try and learn from it, and allow yourself to feel the pain.
Better days lie ahead, and your true love will find you when it is time!

Indeed, mending a broken heart is a hard thing..
It takes time to heal and move on..
But the choice is yours.
Go ahead, just enjoy life..

[bittersweetenn]

truly... live love and laugh...

[amor]

Hey SL..
I experienced it myself but I guess in a different level.. My boyfriend got married last year and until now I still love him..

I love him more than half of my life and I know that he had the same feeling for me..I loved him before I know what love was.. Distance made us apart but the feelings for each other were still there..

December 15, 2005 (can't forget the date) when he asked me to marry him.. At the age of 21 (he's 22), I wasn't ready so I told him that "I will" after 5 years.. He said, he can wait.. November 2006 when I came here and he always sent messages saying how he loves, adores and misses me and I believed him..When I had my vacation last July, I didn't see him and a high school friend of us told me that he's getting married..I didn't believe at first but when I talked to him he said that it's true and he asked me to come.. just imagine that..

anyway, I didn't ask for his explanation.. I just wished him luck.. I didn't cry.. I didn't know why but I didn't.. I was happy for him.. really happy.. my heart knew that he won't be mine again but I was hoping that he'll change his mind..

I went back here before his wedding, he still sends messages. I don't know if it just guilt or what..

I am keeping myself busy for some things like flirting with some other guys out there..lol.. Seriously, I do really keep myself busy.. There are so many things that we can do to forget guys like him..lol..But you know what, the more I try to forget him, the more I dream of him.. The last time was last night..

I told myself that everything happens for a reason.. There's another plan for me.. I know that someday, i'll meet a guy who will give me an unending love.. I'll wait for that day..

You know what? I experienced that myself also..I also had this ex-boyfriend who got married late last year and guess whom did he marry? He married my friend!!!Would you believe that???But in fairness to him,he's already my ex-boyfriend that time , but still it hurts so badly since the girl is my college friend and room mate.

It's also in 2005 when he asked me to marry him, but just like you i was not yet ready to accept his proposal.Our relationship still went on till we had arguments and i ended up breaking up with him.He accepted it though we know that we still love each other.WE still communicated even if we're thru, we still used the same endearments so we know that we still love each other. I guess, we're just too proud to do the first move to give our relationship a second chance thats why it didnt happen...And until now, I can say that I still cant move on due to the fact that I still can't find someone to replace him...

But of course, i see to it that I don't dwell on thinking of him.I keep myself busy with my work.

And just like you, I know that God has a plan for me too. I know He's preparing the right man for me and I just have to wait for that.I'll wait....:cheers:

[skykeeper]

forget him.........hehe.....

[racz_jay25]

And just like you, I know that God has a plan for me too. I know He's preparing the right man for me and I just have to wait for that.I'll wait....:cheers:

Time heals wounds.

Until when are we gonna wait for our knight in the shining armor? Don't you think it's already time for us to look for them?

[amor]

Time heal wounds.

Until when are we gonna wait for our knight in the shining armor? Don't you think it's already time for us to look for them?


yeah, i think you're right but you know, ive dated a number of guys already but still cant find the one who'll compliment me..so, what do you think are we gonna do?

[luckycharm15]

yeah, i think you're right but you know, ive dated a number of guys already but still cant find the one who'll compliment me..so, what do you think are we gonna do?

just enjoy being single..
life must go on..

Stay beautiful!


:dance: :Smiley 6213: :dance:

[amor]

yeah,that's what im doin...thanks!:dance3:

[starz]

You go girl! You know story like yours and mine should be worth reading and taking time to learn from. Lol mind was actually worst.lol But I want to keep the story short. My bf and I both knew we cant be together because I was engaged...but listen.... I was only engaged by word not in my heart and in my mind. I told him I will give up everything for him and he didn't answer me. He said he love me with all his heart and I beleived him. He introduced me to his parents and vise versa. Later the following months after numerous text messages I went to his place to surprised him and sure indeed I was the one who was surprised at the news from his MOTHER...." did'nt you hear? he's getting married". His mother and I both cried in tears. She wanted me to be her daughter in law as she put it words and I just told her " tita, I may not be your daughter in law but I could be your friend to all of you" we said goodbye and I never looked back. I do agree with racz_jay25.... that everything happens for a reason. Now I'm married to a wonderful man who love me more than I love him.